Tag: Bereavement

Witnessing Movie History

I was allowed to sit in the Director’s chair!  This chair was made of light wood and was foldable.  It had black material for the seat and the back rest was of the same black material but with one difference; in bold white capital letters, the word ‘DIRECTOR’.  This was no ordinary chair.  Here, in…

Festive Tears on Standby

Life is a Rollercoaster. For me, this has been a landmark year.  With the high points including the many fun gatherings with family and friends, making wonderful new friends, a move to focusing on developing my writing career, taking up new study,  achieving a long sought diagnosis for my chronic health illness, becoming a member…

Avunculus B

He never once objected All the times I sought his view When called upon for wisdom He would know just what to do. If I reached him by letter Or by a telephone call When there was a new problem He would make my worry small. From the time I was a boy When he…

Pater

What was that? I asked myself I had asked when he had gone A life so big and mighty Astonishing things he’d done. From The River, whence he came And The Green at which he grew Played tuba with Saintly bands His big dreams ran through and through. He found a new Brotherhood Of dark shadows…

You Are Not to Blame

Surviving the loss of a loved one, who took their own life through suicide, has a number of complexities that the natural death of a loved one, may not necessarily have.  Some, or all, of the following responses are common: Shock Frustration Anger Disbelief Denial Helplessness Fixating on the imagined, or known, image of the…

Loss is a Beautiful Tree

The days, months and years following the death of a loved one are an interesting experience.  We all live such experiences in our own unique ways.  Some live those years well, while others struggle to ever thrive again.   Certainly, as a Counsellor and Psychotherapist, I find that many of my clients see me for support around bereavement…

Putting Me In the Spotlight

I was recently interviewed about my work as a Counsellor, Psychotherapist and Clinical Supervisor for The Natural Health Centre Newsletter.  Here’s how the interview went: Dean, what first brought you into Counselling and Psychotherapy? Well, my upbringing was happy, but we experienced quite a lot of heartache; we sadly lost beloved family members to Leukaemia, Cancer and…

Tonight Our Friend May Die

Our friend is the bringer of light Ageless and timeless of years But right now she’s caught in a fight That plays into all our fears. We hold she and her husband dear Right now our hearts simply bleed That we may lose her is our fear ‘Let her stay’ we pray and plead. Kindred…

Loss, Grief and Continuing Bonds

All too often, my family has experienced loss and the inevitable grief that follows.  I learnt, at the young age of six years, what it means for a person to die.  I learnt what it is to experience the following gaping hole of loss in our lives and I learnt that grief is a powerful force that takes…

The Truth is Out There

I have been watching the brand new series of the X-Files; hence the use of this title, which will relate to the topic I write about.  Actually, while on the subject, I would say that there is something comforting about seeing a much loved tv series from my younger adult life, return for an update and…