Tag: Control

There’s No Escaping the Truth

I have been reflecting on my work as a Counsellor and Psychotherapist and about society and humanity.  I wish to share with you a simple truth that I always find underneath any problem behaviour in people.  The good news is that problem behaviour can be overcome. You are responsible for your own behaviour, in the…

Let’s Get Physical

Over the last week, I did something rather extraordinary, for me!  I signed up to membership of our local Leisure Centre! I now have access to use of all of the facilities; including gym, pool and the various classes that run from there.  I have ordered some new gym wear and I have booked myself…

You Are Not Alone

“Shame derives its power from being unspeakable.” – Brene Brown. As a co-facilitator of a support group and support community for people with Parkinson’s, I see that one of the most difficult aspects for anyone participating, is to disclose personal difficulty.  Whatever we may be dealing with, there may be a significant fear of judgement…

Deciding to Accept Parkinson’s

“The more I expect, the more unhappy I am going to be.  The more I accept, the more serene I am.” – Michael J. Fox. One of the most common difficulties that I see, in other people with Parkinson’s, is frustration.  Indeed, I see this in myself at times, too.  Frustration that comes from having…

It’s Worry O’clock!

We will all experience varying degrees of worry and anxiety in our lifetime.  Here is a simple method of moving into an empowered position, over your anxiety.  This is highly effective at times when anxiety may feel distressing. Do not fight the feelings of worry or anxiety. Doing so may enter you into conflict with…

Parkinson’s and Day-to-Day Stress

Living with Parkinson’s is a challenge, at the best of times.  How to juggle the demands of everyday life plus cope with the effects of a disease that zaps your energy and affects your ability to do even the most basic things, is the ongoing question? Yet, what we often lose sight of is that,…

Good News in Regaining Control

We so often create our own difficulty, in life.  Do you ever just stop to take stock of life and to consider how much of what you feel is pressuring you, may actually not be the slightest bit necessary?  In stress, you may feel powerless or even helpless.  You may believe that the things causing you stress are beyond…

Approaching Self-Harm

To set the therapeutic context most widely regarded as integral to understanding and treating self-harm, one would consider the work of Melanie Klein (1882 – 1960).  Melanie Klein is widely regarded for developing Object Relations Theory.  An adult sufferer of depression herself and, through her work with one of Sigmund Freud’s (1856 – 1939)students; Sandor Ferenczi…

Psychological Abuse in Law

Here in the UK, at the end of 2015, a landmark new law came into effect that criminalises the act of Psychological Abuse perpetrated against a Spouse, Partner or Family Member.  This is a major step forward in addressing the broader problem of Domestic Abuse where, historically, Domestic Abuse was only considered to be physical…

Recognising Gambling Addiction

This article was published by ‘Counselling Directory’ web site in 2016. As a Counsellor and Psychotherapist, one of the issues that people come to see me for is help to overcome gambling addiction.  I have considered how gambling addiction originates and develops within people and, while I claim no definitive knowledge on the subject, this…