You Are Not to Blame

Surviving the loss of a loved one, who took their own life through suicide, has a number of complexities that the natural death of a loved one, may not necessarily have.  Some, or all, of the following responses are common: Shock Frustration Anger Disbelief Denial Helplessness Fixating on the imagined, or known, image of the…

How to Start to Change

“Change is not made without inconvenience, even from worse to better”. – Richard Hooker; 1554 – 1600. We Might Accept the Status Quo. I am reminded, in my work with my clients, that even when change is the obvious or necessary next step, even when change is desired, change is a process that can trigger…

Plan Your Way Out of Winter Blues

The tourists have left, children are back at school, farmers have almost completed their harvests and, to be found in fields around most villages, plump pumpkins add a warm orange glow to the landscape. Here, in the beautiful English county of Suffolk, people are soaking up the occasional warm days left over from summer, stocking up on…

Putting Me In the Spotlight

I was recently interviewed about my work as a Counsellor, Psychotherapist and Clinical Supervisor for The Natural Health Centre Newsletter.  Here’s how the interview went: Dean, what first brought you into Counselling and Psychotherapy? Well, my upbringing was happy, but we experienced quite a lot of heartache; we sadly lost beloved family members to Leukaemia, Cancer and…

How to Recognise Depression

The treatment for Depression is not an exact science.  Treatment options around the world vary from talking therapies, alternative and complementary therapies through to the use of prescribed medication. In the Western world, a combination of talking therapies and prescribed medication would appear to be increasingly used as a targeted approach to addressing the suspected…

Recognising Gambling Addiction

As a Counsellor and Psychotherapist, one of the issues that people come to see me for is help to overcome gambling addiction.  I have considered how gambling addiction originates and develops within people and, while I claim no definitive knowledge on the subject, this Blog post is about my thoughts on this subject. There are…