You Are Not to Blame

Surviving the loss of a loved one, who took their own life through suicide, has a number of complexities that the natural death of a loved one, may not necessarily have.  Some, or all, of the following responses are common: Shock Frustration Anger Disbelief Denial Helplessness Fixating on the imagined, or known, image of the…

She Peers, Wisely, Over Her Spectacles

On this chilly Autumn evening, the fire in our sitting room offered the comforting glow of the deepest orange.  The warm blanket of heat, in our sitting room,  hugged my Partner and I as we watched some of our favourite tv shows.  All the while, our dogs; Oscar and Digby, lay on their beds in front of the fire.  Digby; on…

Plan Your Way Out of Winter Blues

The tourists have left, children are back at school, farmers have almost completed their harvests and, to be found in fields around most villages, plump pumpkins add a warm orange glow to the landscape. Here, in the beautiful English county of Suffolk, people are soaking up the occasional warm days left over from summer, stocking up on…

The Cathedral to Bygone Days

As a Counsellor and Psychotherapist, I would recommend to anyone who may be feeling isolated, in some way disconnected from their local community or simply just in need of distraction, to consider visiting local venues of interest.  A museum, for example, can help us to feel connected to our local community, it can help us…

Psychological Abuse in Law

Here in the UK, at the end of 2015, a landmark new law came into effect that criminalises the act of Psychological Abuse perpetrated against a Spouse, Partner or Family Member.  This is a major step forward in addressing the broader problem of Domestic Abuse where, historically, Domestic Abuse was only considered to be physical…

How to Recognise Depression

The treatment for Depression is not an exact science.  Treatment options around the world vary from talking therapies, alternative and complementary therapies through to the use of prescribed medication. In the Western world, a combination of talking therapies and prescribed medication would appear to be increasingly used as a targeted approach to addressing the suspected…