Tag: Loss

Yes, You Will Get Through This

When life does not go your way, When your world falls apart, When your outlook is grey. Yes, you will get through this. When trouble lurks at your door, When there’s no way forward, When the outcome looks poor. Yes, you will get through this. When your self-belief is low, When there’s no solution, When…

Witnessing Movie History

I was allowed to sit in the Director’s chair!  This chair was made of light wood and was foldable.  It had black material for the seat and the back rest was of the same black material but with one difference; in bold white capital letters, the word ‘DIRECTOR’.  This was no ordinary chair.  Here, in…

Keep It Real

“Life seems sometimes like nothing more than a series of losses, from beginning to end.  That’s the given.  How you respond to those losses, what you make of what’s left, that’s the part you have to make up as you go.” – Katharine Weber. One of the things that many people may not realise, is…

You Can Do Parkinson’s

One of the difficulties that people with Parkinson’s tell me about is their sense of frustration at the realisation their diagnosis has changed them forever.  I know this feeling, myself.  I too am well aware of the limitations this disease has upon my life and of how I will never regain my former good health…

When Identity is Withdrawn

Identity is a significant subject for people living with a chronic health disease/illness or disability. For some, the chronic health problem or disability is with them from birth.  In those cases the person’s identity, as being someone living with a chronic health problem or disability, is more likely to be formed earlier in life.  Here,…

Festive Tears on Standby

Life is a Rollercoaster. For me, this has been a landmark year.  With the high points including the many fun gatherings with family and friends, making wonderful new friends, a move to focusing on developing my writing career, taking up new study,  achieving a long sought diagnosis for my chronic health illness, becoming a member…

Avunculus B

He never once objected All the times I sought his view When called upon for wisdom He would know just what to do. If I reached him by letter Or by a telephone call When there was a new problem He would make my worry small. From the time I was a boy When he…

Pater

What was that? I asked myself I had asked when he had gone A life so big and mighty Astonishing things he’d done. From The River, whence he came And The Green at which he grew Played tuba with Saintly bands His big dreams ran through and through. He found a new Brotherhood Of dark shadows…

You Are Not to Blame

Surviving the loss of a loved one, who took their own life through suicide, has a number of complexities that the natural death of a loved one, may not necessarily have.  Some, or all, of the following responses are common: Shock Frustration Anger Disbelief Denial Helplessness Fixating on the imagined, or known, image of the…

Loss is a Beautiful Tree

The days, months and years following the death of a loved one are an interesting experience.  We all live such experiences in our own unique ways.  Some live those years well, while others struggle to ever thrive again.   Certainly, as a Counsellor and Psychotherapist, I find that many of my clients see me for support around bereavement…