Creating Your Safe Haven

I frequently Blog about how important our garden is as a ‘sanctuary’ for me.  No matter what season or time of year, there is always something of interest to observe, even in a small cottage garden as ours is.  I am a great believer that connecting with nature is incredibly important, and helpful, for overall well-being;…

Anxiety – From Foe to Friend

In my role as a Counsellor and Psychotherapist, I meet many people who suffer with anxiety.  The symptoms they experience are usually a combination of the emotional and the physical and the result can be a very disturbing and destabilising sense of anguish. An Unhelpful Context. I find myself disappointed by the way in which…

The Importance of a Critical Mind

Earlier this week, I went for an evening meal at The Ship Inn, in the ancient village of Dunwich, here on the coast of Suffolk.  The meal was an opportunity to catch up with some friends; themselves Therapists in the fields of Shiatsu, Ayurveda Massage and McTimoney Chiropractic Therapy.   I have to say that alongside a…

How to Start to Change

“Change is not made without inconvenience, even from worse to better”. – Richard Hooker; 1554 – 1600. We Might Accept the Status Quo. I am reminded, in my work with my clients, that even when change is the obvious or necessary next step, even when change is desired, change is a process that can trigger…

Plan Your Way Out of Winter Blues

The tourists have left, children are back at school, farmers have almost completed their harvests and, to be found in fields around most villages, plump pumpkins add a warm orange glow to the landscape. Here, in the beautiful English county of Suffolk, people are soaking up the occasional warm days left over from summer, stocking up on…

Techniques for Talking

You’ve probably heard of the expression “Feeling tongue tied”; meaning unable to speak or to speak fully.  Communication is often more challenging than we give credit.  Certainly, this also applies if you ever go to seek the help of a Counsellor or Psychotherapist.  My clients often get into the counselling room and then find that…

Approaching Self-Harm

To set the therapeutic context most widely regarded as integral to understanding and treating self-harm, one would consider the work of Melanie Klein (1882 – 1960).  Melanie Klein is widely regarded for developing Object Relations Theory.  An adult sufferer of depression herself and, through her work with one of Sigmund Freud’s (1856 – 1939)students; Sandor Ferenczi…