You Are Not to Blame

Surviving the loss of a loved one, who took their own life through suicide, has a number of complexities that the natural death of a loved one, may not necessarily have.  Some, or all, of the following responses are common: Shock Frustration Anger Disbelief Denial Helplessness Fixating on the imagined, or known, image of the…

The Importance of a Critical Mind

Earlier this week, I went for an evening meal at The Ship Inn, in the ancient village of Dunwich, here on the coast of Suffolk.  The meal was an opportunity to catch up with some friends; themselves Therapists in the fields of Shiatsu, Ayurveda Massage and McTimoney Chiropractic Therapy.   I have to say that alongside a…

Approaching Self-Harm

To set the therapeutic context most widely regarded as integral to understanding and treating self-harm, one would consider the work of Melanie Klein (1882 – 1960).  Melanie Klein is widely regarded for developing Object Relations Theory.  An adult sufferer of depression herself and, through her work with one of Sigmund Freud’s (1856 – 1939)students; Sandor Ferenczi…

Trusting Your Gut Feeling

In my role as Counsellor and Psychotherapist, I am struck by the inter-play between mind and body.  For example, consider how often we refer to our guts!  We may speak of instinct as a ‘gut feeling’.  When we are faced with difficulty, we may say we ‘follow our gut’.  When we give advice, we may…

Psychological Abuse in Law

Here in the UK, at the end of 2015, a landmark new law came into effect that criminalises the act of Psychological Abuse perpetrated against a Spouse, Partner or Family Member.  This is a major step forward in addressing the broader problem of Domestic Abuse where, historically, Domestic Abuse was only considered to be physical…

Specialist Support of Veterans

In 2014, I was contacted by The Eagle magazine, in Suffolk.  They had become aware of my many years of experience supporting Veterans, and other armed forces personnel; in particular my work with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) and that I had been awarded for my work as Clinical Supervisor to Student Interns through Lakenheath…

How to Recognise Depression

The treatment for Depression is not an exact science.  Treatment options around the world vary from talking therapies, alternative and complementary therapies through to the use of prescribed medication. In the Western world, a combination of talking therapies and prescribed medication would appear to be increasingly used as a targeted approach to addressing the suspected…